Updated: May 11
Hello Bendy Bunch,
I have a question for you:
What would you do if I told you that your desired reality was only a moment away? That would be exciting, wouldn’t it?
Well, I’m happy to tell you that this is true! That being said, in order to experience this moment you must experience the moment.
By "the moment", I am not referring to time simply passing by. I am talking about a segment in time that you truly feel in alignment with your desire, despite whatever actions you are performing in your 3D reality.
As you know, the law of attraction and the law of assumption both operate according to our internal vibrations. The vibrational content of our bodies are influenced and manipulated by the thoughts that we think and in turn, the feelings that we hold.
A person with an average brain, commonly referred to as neurotypical, is more likely to be able to decide how they would like to feel and then they have the choice to simply feel that way.
For those of us who are neurodivergent, or affected by neurological conditions that complicate how our brain communicates with our body, the process doesn’t seem to “feel” that easy.
I would like to share my own perspective on learning to manifest with ease, even with a neurological disorder. In my perspective, neuroplasticity makes any reality possible in spite of anxiety, depression, ADHD, PTSD, and so on.
I would also like to add a disclaimer here:
Many psychologists are still unsure whether to classify mental disorders such as anxiety or depression as neurodivergent. I am not a psychologist or a psychoanalyst. What I do know is that consistently being exposed to trauma from a very young age affected the way my brain communicates with my body. More on this in the next section.
Anxiety Causes You to Prepare for the Worst
Anxiety is an expected part of the human experience. Anxiety can signal us to be aware of our surroundings as well as motivate us to complete important tasks.
Anxiety begins to work against an individual when said individual begins to become anxious in nature.
This is the National Alliance on Mental Illness’ Definition of an Anxiety Disorder:
“Generalized Anxiety Disorder (Gad)
GAD produces chronic, exaggerated worrying about everyday life. This worrying can consume hours each day, making it hard to concentrate or finish daily tasks. A person with GAD may become exhausted by worry and experience headaches, tension or nausea.“
In order for you to better understand the events that caused me to rewire my brain for dread and worry, I am going to identify two themes in my life and the type of thinking they inspire:
Being an only child with a disabled mother.
My mother was consistently hospitalized since my birth. When I was younger, she would occasionally fall and injure herself. I was alone with her on several occasions when she was injured.
These experiences taught me that nowhere was really “safe”. I believed that at any time, I could experience the heartbreak of losing a parent, even inside of my own home.
Being teased for my dark skin and Afrocentric features.
From a young age, my mother complained about how difficult my hair was to manage. I had my hair chemically straightened at age 9. Around this time children started to tease me for my dark skin. “You’re so ugly” was a phrase I began to hear on a daily basis.
As I got older, the teasing became more menacing in nature. Fellow students would compare me to tar, and flatten their noses with their fingers whenever I would enter the room. I was even told by a caucasian teacher that I shouldn’t pursue theatre because I “would never be a pretty girl.”
These experiences taught me that in my most natural state: I would not be accepted. The fear of love being withdrawn created the need to hyper analyze situations in order to avoid humiliation and being made to feel less than.
Anxiety causes us to not feel safe in our present circumstances. The experiences that I described primed me to expect danger around every corner, causing me to live in constant states of fight, flight, fawn, and freeze.
The Power of Our Nervous System: Why is it important to recognize feeling unsafe.
When we feel unsafe, our brain is telling our bodies to prepare for an attack. Feelings of anxiety tend to trigger heart palpitations, so that we may begin to run as well as halting our digestion so that we may be agile in case of a physical assault.
This is what Prong Horn Psychology has to say about anxiety and the nervous system:
"When you feel anxious, your body goes on alert, prompting your brain to prepare itself for flight or fight mode. In an attempt to help you fight off whatever has made you anxious, your brain floods your central nervous system with adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones tell your body that something scary is about to happen. Their role is to help you cope with danger. In order to do that, they sharpen your senses and make your reflexes faster. In a non-anxious brain, when the danger is gone, the sympathetic part of your nervous system takes over and calms you down. But when you suffer from anxiety, you may not be able to reach that sense of calm. Instead, the rush of stress hormones causes your brain to release even more stress hormones until you’re simply overwhelmed.”
Does this mean that a person with an anxiety disorder, is doomed to live out repetitive cycles of fight or flight?
There is power in consciously realizing that our brain has a predisposition to discomfort, or contrast.
Contrast, in a spiritual sense, is when a person is experiencing an event opposite of what they desire. This contrast helps the person better understand what they do want.
The next step is learning how to shift focus from what we don’t want, to what we do want.
I understand that this is easier said than done.
But I am here to tell you that there is hope.
I use to live in a reality where my intrusive thoughts stole any joy I believed was available to me. I use to see graphic violent images of my loved ones falling, injuring themselves, or worse. These intrusive thoughts would fill my body with dread to the point where I was already physically mourning people who were very much alive.
Because of a technique called Segment Intending, I was able to start identifying how I was feeling in the present moment. I learned to understand my fears as well as my patterns and my triggers. Then, and only then, was I able to decide how I wanted to feel instead.
What is Segment Intending?
Segment Intending is the act of consciously priming your emotional state for a future event. I learned about segment intending very early in my spiritual journey with ‘Ask and It is Given’ being one of the first books that I read on my journey.
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Segment Intending gives an individual the power to mentally experience themselves thriving in any situation. This action creates an emotional path for said individual to follow once the event has commenced in this physical reality.
By consistently Segment Intending, moment to moment, one is able to learn when and how mental disorders manipulate their perspective.
Anyone who has been affected by an anxiety disorder knows that there is often an expectation for things to turn out badly. Segment Intending gives us the opportunity to see different lives for ourselves, and through consistent practice, we may even change our neurological pathways.
“You enter a new segment anytime your intentions change: If you are washing dishes and the telephone rings, you enter a new segment. When you get into your vehicle, you enter a new segment. When another person walks into the room, you enter a new segment.
If you will take the time get your thought of expectation started even before you are inside your new segment, you will be able to set the tone of the segment more specifically than if you walk into the segment and begin to observe it as it already is.”
- Ask and It Is Given, Process 11
An example of Segment Intending:
It is my intention to feel joyful and filled with love.
While visiting my hometown, I take a trip to the grocery store intending to have a joyful experience. Walking down the aisle I run into an old classmate that use to tease me.
I see them and immediately decide that I will maintain this energy of joyfulness, even though my body has begun to relive the past.
I see the individual and smile at them. They awkwardly smile back. The moment has ended and I am reminded that I am no longer a teenage victim of racially insensitive bullying.
I could have easily seen the person, hardened, and avoided eye contact. Giving my power away to this person.
Instead, I evolved past my past.
I’ve included a worksheet to help you better understand the process of Segment Intending so that you may apply this technique to your own life experience.