Identity Programming: Mold Your Personality and Your Reality

You Attract What You ARE.

The law of attraction states that we do not only attract based on our desires but also on the state of our being.

“You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are.” - Dr. Wayne Dyer

This does not mean that what we attract is simply based on our identity. More accurately, what we attract is actually based on our subconscious thoughts about our identity.

Often, our identities are created by society. As children, we are told who we are and what we should think. Our feelings about ourselves and the world we inhabit are so dependent on the adults who’ve molded and encouraged us. If positivity and encouragement were absent, in any capacity, that shows up in our identities as adults.

So how does this determine what we are manifesting?

If you’ve been studying the law of attraction as well as the law of assumption, I’m sure you are aware of the standard of belief required for one to co-create with the universe.

One can not manifest something if they do not believe it is possible.

“If you have faith the size of a mustard seed,” the Lord said, “you can say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it will obey you.” Luke 17:6

Doubt is a natural part of the manifesting process. It is a product of all the times we’ve been hurt or disappointed in the past. That being said, the presence of that doubt can not be so strong that it outweighs our ability to see ourselves living the lives that we desire.

Subconsciously, if we doubt that we are capable of living the lives we desire we will make decisions to keep our realities the same. Your mouth says “I want this!” but your mind along with your programs say “I don’t want this! Think of all of the things that could go wrong!”

What is Identity Programming?

This is where identity programming comes in.

To program your identity means to intentionally decide who you want to be.

Taking power away from the limiting beliefs implanted during our upbringing, identity programming allows us to become the people we believe are capable of living our desires.

For example:

Tim grew up in a home where there was not a lot of communication. As an adult, Tim believes that he has poor communication skills. Whenever asked to express himself, Tim becomes insecure and leans into conflict.

Tim wants to manifest a job as a team lead. Though this is what he consciously wants he is hesitant. This hesitation comes from his subconscious knowing that being a leader requires communication.

After reflection, Tim realizes that being a poor communicator does not serve him. Interested in programming his identity, Tim decides to incorporate the law of assumption as well as the law of attraction to shift into a new reality. In this reality, Tim is an efficient communicator.

Tim does this by deciding that he IS a good communicator. The work comes after the decision.

After Tim has committed to his new reality, he stays grounded and present while vigilantly searching for opportunities to be a good communicator. Situations arise that make him uncomfortable but Tim knows that leaning into familiar behavior that feels safe is only inhibiting his ability to become a better communicator.

As the days go by, Tim realizes that it takes less and less effort and communication is becoming somewhat fun and enjoyable. Tim has shifted realities.

Identity Programming Worksheet

Now, it's not always easy to pinpoint what parts of our identities are inhibiting us. This is why I am gifting you an identity programming worksheet.

Identity Programming
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This worksheet is focused on 4 branches of existence: our relationship with ourselves, our relationship with source, our relationship with other humans, and our relationship with abundance.

Meditate before you complete the worksheet.

When you are ready to fill out the worksheet, remember that you are writing about your desired life as if it has already come to pass.

When you’ve completed the worksheet read it through. Notice how you feel reading your words and also notice any resistance that comes up as you visualize this more fulfilled life for yourself.

As life progresses refer to your worksheet. If a situation catches you by surprise, simply reference the identity programming work you’ve done. Always ask yourself, “how would the ideal version of me respond to this situation?”

It’s okay if we stumble. It’s okay if we fall. The work is in simply making an effort. Make an effort to notice when you are thinking, acting, and speaking in a way that is out of alignment with the very identity you’ve created for yourself.

Until next time,


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